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Tiny House Parents are shamed in a letter left by a neighbor

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In 2010 I decided that I wanted to live in a tiny home. I lost count of the number of times I heard, “my closet is bigger than your house.” Apparently, people that I know have pretty big closets.

I don’t take offense when people chuckle or roll their eyes in response to my home. Many people tend to react that way to anything not “status quo.” But, I’ve never had such an aggressive response as Mike and Kelli Bruning of San Diego. Recently, they received an anonymous note shaming them for living minimally with their two sons.


From the Brüning’s on Facebook

Mike and Kelli live in Mission Bay on Bayside walk, just steps from the beach. They have a small, two-bedroom condo where they live with their sons (ages two and four). Just recently, the family had this note left anonymously on their door.

It’s important that you know that you guys are about the most selfish parents around. Because you like the beach, your boys are trapped in a tiny, one bedroom upstairs apartment. Kids need a yard to play in. A swing set, or trike to ride when they want to, not just when it’s convenient for you. I don’t know this but I doubt that either of you had to grow up under these conditions.


This judgemental voyeur is essentially telling this nice couple that they’re doing life wrong.

tiny house shaming letter

From Mike & Kelli Brüning Facebook page

Being a tiny home owner myself, I applaud their lifestyle and what they’ve chosen for their children. I can’t think of a better message to teach children than that from the Brüning’s. It’s not the size of your house or the materials inside, but the time spent together that make wherever they are, a home.

While I don’t know Kelli and Mike, I wish them the very best. From the looks of their beautiful family, they seem very happy living life how they’ve chosen.

I’d love to hear from you. What type of “shaming” or negative reactions have you received about living in (or considering) a tiny home? Please leave any thoughts in the comments below!

If you’re thinking about building a tiny house, please check out “Is Tiny House Living for you? Not until you’ve considered these 16 things!” – particularly #3. Be confident in your decision to go tiny. Be ready for the negative responses… like, “you can’t live in that small of a space!” My response is always . . . “Maybe you can’t but I can, and I do!”

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  1. Shame on the neighbor for sticking their nose where it does not belong, now a days the kids rarely go out and ride their bikes or play on a swing set they are to wrapped up in TV and computer games. I dought very much it affecting a 2 and 4 year old in a negative way, if anything the closeness is a positive atmosphere.

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  2. Bravo to the parents -teaching sustainability, less is more, and the outdoor world is our playground. And where better than the beach?

    The 🌻Sunflower, my 135 sq. ft tiny house on wheels, will be for rent, like an airb&b, at Thevillageofwildflowers.com near Asheville, NC.
    The purpose: to give likeminded folks a short term opportunity to test out tiny house living in a vacation setting.

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